In an interaction, what “exactly” needs to happen to increase one’s quality?

I mean, I know it has something to do with being about “other” as opposed to “self” but… what “exactly” should I be doing for “other” and how do I know what’s right for another person?

This isn’t as obvious as it might seem.
>Most people are pretty independent and don’t need anything from anyone.
>Most people are busy pursuing their wants rather than needs (because they’re already fulfilled: food, water, safety, shelter, etc..)

Should I be helping them pursue their “wants?” Is that even right? What if it only feeds their ego? Does it matter?

Should I act in ways that I think could potentially lower someone’s entropy EVEN THOUGH it challenges/threatens their ego??? Doesn’t challenging someone’s ego make people all defensive, reactive, and scared?

Or is just being absolutely fearless just good enough? Regardless of the decisions made in the interaction

(Somewhere in typing this, I reluctantly recalled the part of the story in Jesus’ life where he takes someone’s sandals off and starts washing this persons feet. I hope this isn’t what I should be doing to be selfless and boost my quality…)

Basically it is about honoring others free will. Not to the point that you let someone who cannot help themselves be damaged. If you see someone beating a child, you should certainly inquire and object for instance. Be prepared to call the police as some believe that they have every right to beat their own child. But discipline only goes so far. Don't let someone go charging into danger either as in withholding information for the pleasure of seeing someone crash on the basis that they are following their free will and you are letting them. Clearly not a good thing to do. Play it straight. Don't play games. Don't ignore criminal activity.

That is the main thing. Honoring and respecting the free will rights of others. It will probably be more clear as you think about it for a while. Have you read Tom's books yet?

Ted

Will,
We have the power to affect every moment(for better or worse) just by being there. Every situation can be improved by your participation, and altered by your presence. But there is no single answer, as to what to do. There is no single (right) action, and no specific (correct) words to say in all interactions. There may, however, be one specific way to BE, and that is LOVE.
We don't need to give a person everything they want, because we know that some of their wants will be "bad" (or harmful) for them. And, similarly, we may not want to give vodka to an alcoholic, even if we feel sorry for them (or maybe you would). We, as adults, don't give a child everything they want, we give them what they need. So the point is, we will inevitably find ourselves in situations of conflict from time to time, but, it is not the conflict that matters as much as how we react and respond to the conflict. If we respond with loving intentions, if we bring love to any situation, we make that situation just a little bit better.
As I see it, we are all spreading waves all the time, like dropping a pebble into a pond. The waves are constantly being emitted from us all the time. Tom says that we are all communicating with each other all the time, telepathically, whether we know it or not.
It takes practice to become aware of what we are thinking and feeling ALL of the time. It takes practice to become aware of what you are communicating. Thoughts are as real as rocks, and while we may not be responsible for every thought that pops into our head, we WILL (most likely) be responsible for the ones we entertain.
What kind of signals are YOU sending? What kind of thoughts are you thinking?

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LOVE is the answer

peace
patrick