Does the system set it up so that we have a "soulmate"?
In my understanding it can happens, Tom and his wife Pamela is an example. I am saying that, because Tom has mentioned it in his book. Majority has no soulmate, but do their best to live with their partners, children, friends and etc. I believe you have to be a representation of a mature soul, IOUC, to be able to make a plan before incarnating here. Experience is a valuable thing, and for IOUC to gain some wisdom takes many runs with no plan at all. Come back to NPMR, shake off PMR dream, get help to feel stronger, analyze with some help your past life experience and you are good to go to jump into a new adventure. Kindergarten kids don't need a special preplanning done, they have to acquire as much experience as possible at first. A puppy has to learn how to walk on a leash, don't pee in a crate or on carpet, listen to commands and obey. This is a necessary experience for a dog before any more serious steps. The same could be said about us, kindergarten kids, too. ;))