Thank you all for your input and support. :))
'there is a sense of loss almost'. This is exactly my feelings. It is good to know, that each of us taking own path, but we share the same feelings and emotions. Thanks to them, we can relate our experience to each other, and it makes a task of learning much easy.
yes, of course, as soon as I touch on a MBT subject, I feel loneliness. I have a couple of friends who are interested in metaphysic, or psychology, but I feel, like I am teaching them, and this is and awkward position to me. I am not insisting on anything, at least I see it this way. Sometimes it drains me though, because I feel, that expectations may be too high, and I see many things from a different perspective. For one, those friends are younger, than I am, about my son's age. Please don't get me wrong, I am very happy to see, that we are growing together, each of us at our own pace and direction. Looks, like I started bragging here, but I don't. ;))
yes, refocusing is a good tool. I don't read fiction anymore, but I watch children cartoons, British comedy, Are you being served or Keeping up Appearances, love stories, Pride and Prejudice, or an old movie, where a happy end is 100% guaranteed. This morning I started Viktor Frankl book on a logotherapy. His books are always helpful to me. I was thinking about Henry Miller, Big Sur too.
Wow...there is so much good stuff here...I recall Tom referring to a sadness in one of his videos that tempers the overall joy of living associated with Quality of Consciousness - need a search feature on video transcripts! (or someone with photographic memory)
Pride and Prejudice - In the States, you have several options for legit online film downloading/direct viewing, most of which are very user friendly, that involve buying a little box for $100-300 at Best Buy, that provide an interface between your TV and the internet. The newer televisions have this built in.
The illegitimate forms of this are many, but more technical. In Canada, I am sometimes forced to use the latter as virtually all of the legit services are blocked. I have Canadian Netflix, which remains a very good deal, but the selection is really limited.
All this to say that by expanding your decision space in this regard permits one to dramatically increase the quality of TV viewing...for those not yet at the level of spending their evenings meditating or reading philosophy or MBTOE! Anyways, some "couch duty" is part of a healthy marriage, even for the very-low-entropy show-offs ; - )
Pride and Prejudice, which I think has several versions out there, of course, represents an entire film genre based on 19th and early 20th century literature which taps into a world view, largely lost in modern Culture, which mostly is very limited in violence and have strong morality themes...are generally studies of bad decision making (intent), consequences (feedback) and recovery (self modification). Tom has mentioned that violent and evil themes can do yourself damage.
What I do is get on Wikipedia or other sources which has various pages devoted to film genres, and you build a list lets say of all films done by "Merchant Ivory" (if you don't know what this is, you are in for a treat), or all films with Maggie Smith, Jeremy Irons (use their bio pages), and so on. Then you get on Vuze or hopefully a legit service and download or stream them.
There are communities where you can talk about NPMR. In order of openness
TMI city groups
Spiritualism Churches and Temples (latter being non-religious)
Edgar Cayce Groups
Eckankar (Astral Projection Cult)
American style Buddhism (Shambala)
Unitarianism (looks like a church, smells like a church, but is not "religious")
(Swedenborg)The New Church (religious lite, but Edgar Cayce-esque)
One idea for an MBTOE non-religion (local meeting groups) that I floated by Tom in NC and with which he was decisively neutral (not for or against - the key message was "there are no restrictions in this regard"), is local MBTOE "book clubs".
There are several advantages to this model
- it is secular and not religious in form
- it is a modern social phenomena that the target population would find familiar
- it could be a powerful "recruiting" tool (free community ads in local/neighbourhood/spiritually-oriented newspapers)
- it focuses on the books, given that MBTOE is very "trilogy- centric"
- if we act now, the principles and form of gathering would be established by "Forum" consensus under Ted and Tom's guidance and authority, rather than by outsiders (the latter which is already beginning!).
- it enables individual initiative and is easily scalable...one person acting alone can begin by simple following the conventional process for starting and promoting a book club in your area.
- group meditation (binuaral and otherwise) and healing could be incorporated, however, this crosses a significant line into operating as a "quasi-religion" or "spiritual meeting". It could be kept separate (done before or after "book club") to avoid freaking newcomers out (In spiritualism, healing is normally done before the formal meeting, for example).
- there could also be a technical research committee that performs experiments such as measuring healing results, remote viewing and OBE training etc. MENSA operates on this model of several separate interest sub-groups within the overall local club umbrella.
I think a TOEist education is incomplete without at least some exposure to the key psychological schools: Jung, Frankl, and the lesser known Karen Horney.
for those not aware of Frankl...Like when you take a trained physicist and blast them through NPMR, you get a very valuable result, imagine what you get when you put a trained psychologist through the Nazi death camp experience - what fell out of that was Frankls logotherapy (finding "meaning" within pain, loss and discomfort...which ties to Tom's statements regarding life not fundamentally being about having a "good time"...but rather, finding meaning [QoC growth] within our struggles and challenges)