[below written before reading Ted's posting]
excellent links above. I like Tom's characterization of what could be labeled the difference between charity and compassion, the former more vulnerable to being an expression of ego, the latter an expression of empathy/agape love.
[One practise that comes from the root Christian teaching is to perform good works in absolute secrecy if possible, which dilutes the ego effect. - ignore religious reference if this creeps you out! thats just part of my background]
my take on MBTOE is that the core process is a moment by moment choice between ego and love, the sock puppet bump in the AUM sheet (your individuation) vs the sheet (your essential reality as a digital sector of AUM) - and that at each fork in the road (DELTA(t)), you may face stark or subtle choices between these two paths (decision vectors).
now, this comes directly from Tom's guidance to me...don't worry about the fog of war and making mistakes, just do your best to make love based decisions (low entropy intent) -> action -> feedback -> interpretation of feedback -> try again with the new learning, lower entropy
accelerate the process by increasing your social intensity and strengthening your sheet (AUM) awareness through meditation (and creative activities or other-centered actions)
one tool to study such things directly is to go to users and do a keyword search on Tom's postings, and use the "search these results" fieldsearch.php?author_id=4&sr=posts
You can also go to Google Books and search the Trilogy. Let us know if you need help with this. http://books.google.com/books?id=RYHtBP ... on&f=false
it is also cool to learn how to clip trilogy quotes and place them into your postings...let me know if you want help with that