it puzzeles me.
YOu say it depends on how many times you have gone throu process.
But Tom talks about many examples, where person (upon death), is puzzleed to what is happening - in sens of "i was sleeping, walking, driving, and what the hell is happening to me now?"
This, i suppouse has nothing to do with past cycles. Prom this, it derives that person (in death) knows what he was doing minutes before death - and there fore is puzzled why isnt he doing it any more.
So point of my question is, thoes the same principle appears when you are "ready" to die, and yoo know you are going to day in few minutes, so when you cross the line - do you still know what you are doing, like in walking example.
You say to your self, "ok, next second i will be dead so i hope i remember this sentence and wont be so suprised, why am i floating in front of my body".
How many times one has gone through the process is one
of the factors that can effect the experience. If somebody has spontaneous OBEs, their reaction to the first one will likely be much different as compared to their reaction to number 300. Similar idea. This is even notable in reports by those who have experienced 2 or more NDEs in a single lifetime. Again though, that is just one of many factors.
Saying or thinking something one minute before death could have some effect, but it would be small in comparison to the effect that your fears, beliefs, understanding, past experiences, awareness, etc would have.
Also keep in mind that Tom's examples were likely ones in which the people needed help
transitioning because of their fears, beliefs, expectations, etc. It is not fundamental
that we are confused or disoriented at death. Tom has also discussed that some do not need to see uncle Fred or go through the same processing (waiting in lines, etc). I believe he mentions this in one of the MBT get-together videos on youtube, but I can't recall which one.
Being ready to die is much different than saying or thinking something before death and has to do with those factors mentioned above. Being ready to die (at the being level) would allow for a smooth transition and would likely be much different than somebody that died suddenly in a car crash. However, if that person in the car crash was familiar with NPMR and had little or no fear of death, then they would be, by definition, "ready" as well. That transition, would likely also be smooth (in comparison to somebody that was not ready).
You are only puzzled if the circumstances are puzzling :)
This is an excellent topic to experiment with in lucid dreams and OBEs.