Tom Campbell tells us, at least the beginners, over and over to remain "skeptical but open-minded" in our work in trying to understand his concepts, correct? When one is skeptical, one raises questions and hopefully get answers in an iterative process in an effort to address his or her skepticism(s), right? So, if one gets a nonresponsive reply to a question or worse, a knee-jerk defensive and condenscending response, you could see how the original skepticism, which Tom Campbell say he expects and embraces, not only remains but actually increases. Especially, when the response is from a forum administrator who is supposed to set an example for the rest of the board members. In this situation, the originator of the question has every right to be "a little disturbed". Not an "ego" or "fear" thing at all.
Initial defensiveness by MBT proponents to a reasonably skeptical question is, however, solely motivated by "fear", "anger" and "ego". This is something that you might want to think hard about, Sabby.
It would be very convenient for every board MBT proponent to answer any question raised by the "great unwashed" by suggesting that the question was raised out of "fear", "anger" or any other "ego" motivation. Yes very convenient but very scientifically and philosophically lazy, hurtful to beginners and so detrimental to the main purpose of this board and Tom's "assignment".
Of any other board on the Internet, THIS board should be the BEST at treating honest skepticism in a more mature, unemotional and scientific manner.
The core issue here may be your presumption that a very good model translates into very good behavior. My view is that Ted is highly optimized for his task, which is mostly to execute the left hemispheric arts of TOE model discussion and Board management...and in this he is a savant.
His interactions can fall short of warm and fuzzy, however, in the above interaction, you are getting Ted at his best in this regard. The vast magority of newcomers have your reaction, have hurt feelings, are perplexed, and move on.
I will share with you some alternate interpretations
While Ted is optimized for this task, which requires an unhuman thick skin, Tom is more balanced and reflects the overall perfection of skill and love that you require, when you see him in action in real life, so do not dismiss this school of thinking based on your perception of Teds behavior.
The TOEist school has a Monroian provenance, reinforced by Tom and Ted of what I would call macho mysticism, and the style can be disturbing for those acclimated to feminine new age touchy feely interactive style. The thing is, love, is intent, not soft words, pacifism or gratutious ego stroking.
Consider the style of the zen master, which is very in your face and constantly challenges the ego of the novice, and the whack of the instructors stick.
Dr. Ted has been doing this for a long time, and is a disturbingly clever fellow who is interpreting the intent behind your words and thinking three moves ahead...he has been provided by AUM to you as a free service, and once you learn to trust him and use him with competence, you will move forward rapidly. In truth, one cannot move forward effectively without completing the Trilogy.
If Ted has made an incorrect deduction regarding the intent of your words, the correct response from a low entropy newcomer is to politely correct the situation, and out of politeness, say, "sorry, I was not clear in my posting". The higher entropy individual invests their resources in blaming other for their frustration.
While some persons of limited capacity may be humoured and receive hand holding, you are obviously a person of advanced capacity and Ted is respecting that potential by talking to you as an equal who does not require special handling.