SO my question is about the Bigger evolution,- the TOE. If the system is all about progress and evoloution.. Why don' t people with "low entropy" get faster sexually with the opposite sex, when people (often) with "high entropy" often do? I am comparing this reducing entropy process with sex/mating and Survival of the fittest. Where is the link?
The larger consciousness system is all about the evolution of consciousness - spiritual growth. In that case, evolution deals with growing toward love - toward a more productive and useful state that naturally expresses love. That is what keeps the system "alive".
PMR (as a virtual reality) evolves in a different way. The process of evolution itself is fractal-like, but the goals are a bit different. In the case of PMR, the biological drive is to survive and to procreate. That is what keeps PMR "alive".
purpose of PMR (from a larger view) is not to grow itself toward a higher state of love (though that may happen as a natural result as we all grow). The primary purpose of PMR is to provide an environment in which we, as chunks of consciousness can gain direct experience in the name of growth (including both good and bad experiences). Procreation and survival are specif to PMR(s) and are not universal. They help to create the environment within which we can gain the direct experiences that help us grow in understanding and love.
Romantic love is a PMR process... and a very useful one in terms of direct experience. Being the "nice guy" might not always get you the girl that your PMR self tells you that you need or should have. You are, in a sense, part IUOC and part human. - a mixture of both. You are a unit of consciousness dealing with what it is to be in PMR as a human with unique traits and qualities. You are an expression of your "higher self" dealing with what it is to be zeeker (the human). Our "higher self" is likely not yearning to meet a girl. Consider some of the PMR examples of what might represent truly low entropy beings: Gandhi, Mother Teressa, Jesus, Buddha, et all. The PMR drive to find a partner or lover was not of primary concern (that I know of). This is not to say that we should pretend to be like them. We should be who we
are and keep on working to make our next choice be just a little bit better. The goal is not to become perfect, but to experience, learn, and grow while we are exactly who we are.
So your experience with all of this girl business, is just that - an experience; and that is exactly why you are here.
The idea that the nice guy finishes last is quite true as viewed from a PMR perspective, but not from a larger perspective.
By the way, my experience with girls in my early and mid 20's was the same. Be patient and focus on your growth... things tend to start falling from the sky at just the right time when we do that :)
...That is my limited perspective anyway.