Romance is one area you are concerned for her, or she is concerned? Lack of it, or just not a "good" one currently? The first relationship to work on is our relationship with our self. All the rest will follow.
Romance is the least of the three as far as I am concerned, but to my friend M. it is a very big deal that she has never been married and has never had children. She has voiced with longing to me, "where is my Prince Charming?!?" but I couldn't agree with you more that first we need to address our own relationship with our own self, a point I and my sister keep trying to emphasize to my friend, who unfortunately was not raised in the unconditionally loving, supportive and nurturing family environment that I and my two sisters enjoyed.
I'm glad you made it here Lynda, you did good listening to your self. Love Bette
I'm glad I made it here too, Bette, but I was also glad to have found Dr. Michael Sharp and his forums, and we all saw how well THAT turned out, so I am still optimistically skeptical that I have found a permanent home here, but I am looking forward to seeing how it all turns out nonetheless.
As far as listening to my self, the funny thing is, I almost did not watch Tom's lecture because it was too old! Like I told him in an email, I am into fresh information, really fresh, like this week. Glad I listened to myself too, fo sho, fo sho.
Anyway, the request has been put out there, hopefully Lena and Thynes and Tom and Ramon and Montana and everybody and anybody else who can lend a helping hand will assist. For now I am finished divulging personal information about my friend, we have all we should need to work on her.
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