Just found a great couple of paragraphs from page 117 of book 2 of MBT
that I thought I should post here for all of the wisdom they contain (and their relevance to all of us):
Thomas W. Campbell wrote:
The common ego-attributes of arrogance, self-importance, and self-righteousness are merely a few of the construction devices such as arches, vertical walls, and pitched roofs that the ego uses to build and maintain its delusion. If others evaluate an individual as egotistical, it means the fantasy built by that individual's intellect-ego reality construction team is obvious to the vision and understanding of others. The degree to which you are capable of understanding the fantasy structures of others is dependent on your own personal fantasy structures.
To complete the picture of ego, as defined above, you must be aware of its opposites: humility and compassion. Humility allows for confidence, certainty, self-assuredness, purpose, and passion while carrying an underlying implication of an awareness and recognition of limitations. The limitations of which humanity is aware can originate inside or outside the individual (a wholly artificial distinction, but one that will aid the clarity of the explanation).
An awareness of inside limitations recognizes the limits of individual knowledge and understanding (it acknowledges its own ignorance and is accepting of the ignorance of others). An individual who fully appreciates the value, significance, and importance of others, as well as understands his or her own responsibility to be of service, reflects genuine humility. Humility breeds compassion and vice-versa. Outside limitations spring from an understanding of the laws, properties, and requirements of reality. Humility and compassion require an individual to understand their limited role within the Big Picture. As arrogance waxes, humility wanes.
If anyone tends to skip over long posts- at least go over the last (quoted) paragraph a couple of times... very useful and true.