A good quality of intent can be used for good or bad. I know the "quality" applied here is not the same as the QoC. I am talking about the quality behind the scenes of producing an action through intent.
I think we are on the same page here. Whatever we do, if we have somebody's interest as a priority, we are experiencing a good quality of intent, i.e. we supposed to be as selfless as we can be.
I don't know how can you effectively examine without judging, but I think you meant judging others. Judging is not bad if you are egoless or you do it without ego involved. Constantly judging others to measure yourself (compare or compete) is counterproductive IMO and a constant ego invitation.
Of course it is not an easy task examining without judging, and I judge myself and others as well. I can say that I am getting better, because I am learning how to be free of this quality. I totally agree that our ego is striving to compete and compare all the time, and each time it can provide as many reasons as possible why we have to do so. Also I think that it is almost impossible to meet egoless people in our everyday life. We are, at least a majority of us, here to learn how to get rid of our ego. If we get lucky to see an egoless person, we will notice him or her instantaneously. Tom is egoless, I can say it for sure. You can see and, what is more important, you can feel it right away.
What you said is a great suggestion. I do this constantly. Actually it never crossed my mind trying to stop doing this. I examined myself a lot more than I examine others. The examining of others is mainly observation and trying to find best ways to help.
I would say that for me this is not so much examining myself or others. It is not a mental exercise. When I do something for somebody, and it can be anything, I notice very briefly what I have done and what was my intent behind it. That is it. After that my notice goes in a 'storage' area somewhere. It does take two of three seconds of my attention, but I am aware that each time after that something has been changed in me.
Sorry, this is a long post.