Lynda: "Like any of that generates more novelty or excitement than being with a new partner for the first time. Come on Randy, are you kidding me? "
I have gotten more excitement and novelty from my piano, and it continues to grow, sometimes much more joy from a simple song than some of my first sexual encounters with brand new partners.
Not me. I feel more charged with another human being in the room. Inanimate objects just don't cut the mustard for me.
I can definitely commune with God and have much pleasure just in looking at the sky or at a flower, but it is not the same Charge I am talking about, almost an electricity, that can sometimes happen between two IUOCs.
I don't just mean intercourse or even anything sexual. It can be a first date. Getting to know that person, and deciding what you want to let them know about you. Getting to like that person and find things you have in common. Picking up on whether you think that person might actually see a second date in your future. These are things you don't get to enjoy once you've been together in a monotonous ahem, excuse me, monogamous relationship over the course of years and years. This is the kind of freshness and novelty Bette and Randy were speaking of in the Forum Get-Together. This is why I find monogamy a total drag.
Last week I spoke to a radio hostess who agrees with me and in fact has written a book, "Stop Saying I'm Fine!" and is now working on her second book, "The Roommate Syndrome". Once you've been married to the same person for fourteen years, if you elect to go that route, you will begin to understand where this author, Mel Robbins, and I are coming from.