...You give the enemy a compliment, and his attention draws away from the battle/game and becomes focused on his satiated ego - even if only a smidgen, it's enough to give you an edge...because his attention is fractionated. It's also disarming, you become vulnerable to a potential attack....... your attention is busy caressing your ego from that compliment you've just been given. "Yeah, that's right, I am a great ballplayer/soldier"...
I'm not saying all compliments are bad, the key thing is in recognizing the person's intent to throw your attention off balance. And the other key thing is you don't let yourself get all cloudy when you get complimented, whether the other person's intent was benign or malign because the disorder caused could be your undoing (or the fact that you simply overlook something important in real time)
Thank you for enlightening us WillMeister. My ego really loves compliments, in fact the saying "Flattery will get you everywhere" is pretty appropriate for me. I love how you said being unreactive conveys confidence, that is what I would like to portray, in a small-ego sort of way. So instead of being dazzled by the pretty words, I would like to be able to sort of nod and smile a little and respond with something like "I'm glad you think so" or something equally non-reactive and get on with the conversation or the battle or the game or whatever I and the complimenter are engaged in at the time.
Excellent thread, thank you for starting it!