Not a lot of time to write at the moment Marc, but here are a few things:
The whole anecdotes business... I understand your want for these. Nothing could be more human. As far as I know, in all human societies and cultures of any sort, teaching involves story telling, tales of events past to fill out descriptions of world views that are imparted to new members. It is an important part of teaching that.
It happens though that when someone does that with someone else, they are creating a link with them ... the strength of the link may be mild, as the butcher might purchase the services of the shoemaker who in turn buys his steaks, or stronger, as the doctor repairs the health of the ill banker who underwrites his insurance, to critical, as the heart feeds the liver and the brain, etc. So when we tell tales, there is at least that consequence.
Yet another thing that happens is that, when telling personal tales, one can inadvertently (or intentionally) give away pieces of one's energy, as well as open ones' self up to approach. This is like going into a darkened motorcycle club house at midnight on a Halloween full moon with a pocket full of cash and having sex with anything that touches you. .... :Yuck.
Still a third reason to be wary of telling tales is that many of us are of a radically, fundamentally different nature.... just as different animals have different ways, styles, fates, proclivities, and optimal diets and ecosystems, so do 'spirits', of 'souls' or "IUOCs". Hearing tales that belong to a kind of being much different from your own can lead you down the wrong path, doing and living things and ideas you should not now be touching, and consuming non-physical products that are not good for your health, all the while missing the items and experiences that you SHOULD be consuming if only you were following your own in tuition.
As I said, not a lot of time, not even to review and correct spelling mistakes in the above.
In general, you are right to follow your own intuition, follow your own guidance, and don't attach too much importance to the words of others, unless they seem to make sense to you, and even then, test the ideas.
In general, we gather here in this forum because we like the atmosphere of the world view (or, if you like, meta-world view) that Tom presents. A human-enough by product of that is that most or all of us tend to read things or slants in Tom's words that Tom never intended while at the same time missing key points that he DOES intend.
In general, these are not hair-standing-on-end issues.
Welcome to the boards.