Cole, I guess nobody is talking about the "Value Climate" in this thread any more.
I am noticing something, that it is not only in this board but when talking to people. Sometimes I think I don't belong to this PMR, and I wonder if I would choose to come back here.
My point is this: I think there is a difference in personality types. I am an INTJ. Then we have Cole, Bette, Lynda. None of you guys, (except for Bette after some iterations) cared about the phrase itself: "Love is never having to say you're sorry", or my opinions. Each of you apparently see it only as the action from me towards Bette. If somebody else would have said the phrase I would have done the same thing. May be because I get "out of body" when thinking about the phrase that I decouple from the writer. Then the writer gets back to me and that is when the back and forward goes usually getting personal, not because of my choice, I have to turn it into a defense attack thing. You don't see anything wrong here? Despite being an idiomatic expression is it obvious for you guys that the phrase is either nonsense, not important or true? Well, if the phrase became popular it might have been because of a reason. At least Wikipedia found it important enough to have a page about it. The phrase was voted #13 in AFI according to Wikipedia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_means ... u're_sorry
This page also posts another phrase of John Lennon which makes sense for me:
"Love means having to say you're sorry every fifteen minutes." by John Lennon.
Well, you may find my post meaningless if you cannot find anything personal on it but I will add some phrases I created:
The perfect purpose:
Some of us have the habit to seek perfections (perfect life, perfect job, perfect house, perfect car, perfect husband, perfect wife, perfect boobs, perfect booty :). On that path some of us reject imperfections without understanding that both perfections and imperfections are there for a reason. They are both perfect for the purpose.
Thinking loud about a difference between finding and creating
Finding comes from outside. Creating comes from inside.
You look for hapiness ... you may find it. Then you say: "I found the perfect love". You may later on find out that the "perfect love" you found is not perfect anymore or you may lose that love ... is gone.
Now, didn't you realize that when you were saying "I found the perfect love", you actually created that love from within yourself? You were the one that brought all those feelings from yourself. You let them be. You allowed that "love" inside of you to manifest.
You can practice creating love, creating happiness by working on yourself, by doing things that you and only you control. Therefore you and only you are controlling your happiness.
Finally, this one I found it:
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.