I don't think that Tom made any judgement that this PMR needs more help. I imagine it is more a plan coming from The Big Cheese, or even some consciousnesses above him. From time to time teachers have always been in contact with inhabitants of this PMR to aid in consciousness evolution. It is probably the same for many PMRs. Tom says he had a lot of training in NPMR before incarnating with this task.
Well...someone had to come to the conclusion that we needed aid. We must only need aid because we appear to be struggling on the path at the moment...otherwise we wouldn't need aid right? So if Tom didn't make that judgement, some consciousness even more evolved than himself did. I think we're coming from the standpoint that all judgement is bad. I don't think that's true. You can judge whether or not it's wise to jump off a ledge based on how far of a drop it is. Judgement may have its roots in ego, but neither does Tom say that ego is always bad. It's when we serve the ego rather than it serving us that is bad. It seems to me that judgement coming from ego can be moderated by either fear or love. So maybe Tom himself really is not making any judgements about humanity or anyone in particular. But someone had to, so that the plan could get rolling.
I think the woman wants a kick in the pants or some kind of reassurance. She is probably just in a little life hiatus right now. Circumstances usually jolt you out of that one way or the other. I don't think Tom is ever compelled to judge anyone. It isn't in his makeup. Judging is a part of ego, and he doesn't have that kind of ego.
Agreed. I think we can chock Tom's answer up to probably being the best overall way to help and encourage that woman, rather than contribute to what appears to be her own self induced fear cycle.