I haven't even finished reading MBT yet but i think I can understand kyubi's dissapointment.
Everybody here is correct, there is no quick easy magic formula, but...
The missconception that giving examples is less productive is partly an insight and partly a generalisation.
You understand that giving the example changes the taker (this is the insight).
You understand that most people (this is the generalisation) are hungry takers that take things personal.
It's a missconception that examples are less productive because changing the taker can be productive and not all people take things personal.
Don't act on impulse, if you feel offended. Act on impulse, if you'd like to do anything good to anybody.
I love this kind of programming, lena does it both ways under different conditions.
Also, it's natural to try all strategies, evaluate and enhance the ones that 'work' but don't prematurly disregard the ones that did'nt 'work' untill they're too destructive or dead (Humanity).
Also, this is an age of fast change, this generations is used to speed, so quickly:
If it's more productive for the quality of conciousness produce an ongoing effort to enhance a list of examples starting from kroeran's excellent summary. I know it benefitted even thou I did'nt take anything personal.
If it's not more productive for the quality of conciousness, think up a strategy (or strategies) to handle the questions about quick magic fomulae in a more productive way.
Or else continue what has worked so far :)
My contribution to kroeran's summary is:
6- strive for open and skeptical empiricism, believe nothing, and fully deploy both hemispheres...think & feel
oh and something, somewhere about investigating, embracing and integrating your dark side(s) because without em, you're less than whole.