This has not been my experience. I disagree.
Very interesting. People always tell me that people never change and this is of course not true. People ALWAYS change, but perhaps it’s a matter of semantics? Having a negative emotion seems to me to be a matter of perspective. You have your preferences, others have theirs. What you perceive as negative another may perceive as positive and vice versa. Can you imagine any absolutes here that are true under all circumstances? I haven’t been able to.
The negative aspects will not help you lower your entropy according to the MBT model which is consistent with ancient models as well. Anger is unhealthy and unnecessary. One can eliminate it by choice and willful intent as with any other negative emotion. IMHO.
Aaa, but they can. The negative is there for a reason. It drives you and teaches you doesn’t it?
You don’t want to be negative, you want to be positive. The problem is, you/we are ALL of it, negative and positive.
It seems to me that it is not the having of the negative emotion that is the problem, it is the denial of its existence, which leads to a denial of parts of the “self”. It seems as if this is what you are saying here, but in a different way.
Feed back is meaningless if you do not act on it. If someone tells me I am angry, and I had not perceived myself as angry to that point, I am going to identify it, leash it, get to the bottom of it and eliminate it.
You do choose how to feel about any given thing, but you are under no obligation to accept what you believe is harmful to you. The trick, in my experience has always been to use negativity to my advantage, basically to learn from it.
You cannot control something you don’t own. If you identify something as being negative, it is YOU who is making that identification, and it is YOU who will continue to experience it until you have found within yourself what you need to know. I have found it helpful to “allow” the negative to guide me toward the positive. I do not invalidate or “eliminate” what I don’t prefer. You cannot eliminate part of yourself, as you are a part of “All That Is”. I accept it as part of my “self”. I simply say thank you but no thank you, I will change. :)