In an unpublished comment to me, Tom wrote:
In the book, I define love in terms of entropy: "Love is the nature of a low entropy consciousness."
"Consciousness becoming love" and "becoming a low entropy consciousness" are the same thing.
Low entropy interaction between IUOCs is described as other-centered: cooperative, caring, about others rather than self, empathetic, compassionate, etc. -- these are interaction with love based intent, they produce building, constructing, growing, optimization of the entire system, satisfaction, contentment, joy, and happiness in the long term.
High entropy interaction between IUOCs is describes as self-centered, all about me and mine, cooperative only when it is in my best interest, care mostly about myself, empathy and compassion are attributes of weakness, trust no one, manipulate others to my ends, take rather than give, etc. -- these are interactions with a fear based intent, they produce self-destruction, dissolution, tearing apart, turmoil, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, depression, pain, and chaos in the long term.
I have written recently, trying to put this into terms that board members can see based upon their own experience and understanding that this is true. viewtopic.php?f=14&t=9002&hilit=love+my ... =15#p83085
See if this and following posts helps understanding how this principle arises. Further, I would point out, that English lacks words with the exact definitions which Tom finds himself needing to state the ideas which he wishes and needs to transmit to others to understand the nature of Reality. Tom has written up a paper putting forwards these definitions for ready reference. Here is the link from which this paper can be downloaded. viewtopic.php?f=257&t=8833#wrapheader
There have been updates of this paper but I think that this gets the latest and present version.
You have a lot to cover if you wish to get fully up to speed. The original books suffer the limitation of having to be developed and written for 'beginners' in understanding these concepts. Tom's video presentations, while being immediate and compelling in their own way, suffer from the limitation of videos to present complex subjects deeply. It is intended that the Wiki, once on line again, provides a permanent repository of the most succinct but complete and in depth information and that this board is the place to ask questions at whatever depth you wish or need to take your understanding as far as you are able.