Hello my friends,
the Situation is as followed:" My Grandmother is mostly alone and doesn't have that much talk anymore. Her husband died in 2014 and since then she got older fast.
For the most part, she seems pretty happy and is one of the most beautiful people I met so far. I feel some of her fears since she realizes her dementia and it appears to me that she runs away from it.
She was always just a helper person, never caring too much about herself. My grandfather was half-impaired, his right leg didn't work, so she was always there for him.
Now she is happy for every help she can offer and I gladly take it as she is probably happy to be helpful.
But now since she forgets everything within 10 seconds most of the time and not showing it to the outer world or asking for help or talking about her inner feelings, I don't know how to approach her.
I feel like she is circling in her head about herself not being able to remember things and then dismissing it telling herself "whatever". I mean she seems to be happy, especially if a person is just around her not challenging her too much. Is it my job to just give her a warm safe space where she doesn't have to think about her anxiety and dementia? Because if I ask her about stuff and she starts looking to the ground and realizes again that she forgets everything doesn't seem to be helpful.
She lives healthy without any drugs and meds (age of 78) but on the other hand, has interrupted sleep due to her bladder waking her up 5-8 times a night.
It feels like she is spinning around the same thought patterns (that she is afraid of forgetting something) and that makes everything even worse. I believe she can transform herself if she would believe in herself. Now I want your advice or any ideas and experiences you can share. Any tips I am glad to have.
Whatever you choose will be the correct decision. Your souls are working in tandem. Your perception of her fear is your fear, physically manifested within your reality, so you may witness it in an external perspective as if it wasn’t you.
Approach with love and respect and make no assumptions, just do as you are asked, within reason, if it is your desire to help.
It isn’t easy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your Grandmother.