The amount of genuine and true information of this forum is stunning!
Information is always only information untill experienced, and at the age of 25 I must say that I am glad to have experienced destructive relationships, I truly understood what Tom says here about them. It is like a universal law now that I think about it, it actually works every single time. By being manipulative and constantly trying to make the partner think this and that about oneself, is all ego. It's like bouncing a growing slimy ball back and forth, in the end it explodes and what a mess!
Better to polish this ball, to make it beautiful, and then just sending it away to see what happens without fear.
How can I have missed this before?
Now, I wonder, when this data is in place, can I call my ex to try again. I still love her. I guess this is jumping back to stage 1 because then I would be in the trying zone again (fear zone). Man, how my ego is struggling nowadays =)
Traveling towards the home of high-distilled pure crystalized loosh, to become Love.