I agree with this:
The core of the hardcore feminist arguments is "because we have a modern technological society, evolution and biology don't matter."
But some of the stuff you say I think is just your own conjecture, regarding the 2nd and 3rd generation of certain types of marriages, and this:
The reason matriarchal societies are so extremely rare is that they have no resistance to outside forces. The children of women in matriarchal societies are basically:
- boys who are taught to be unassertive
- girls who are taught that men are weak and unthreathening
Makes me sad as it seems you think that we must have patriarchy, and that men must be assertive with women. What do you know about matriarchal societies? Are the boys unassertive? Are they not capable of fighting? I think that they are.
As regards feminism, I have always been ambivalent, as I often feel diminished by it, because of the insistence on denying differences, and ultimately claiming that women can be just like men. If we want to be just like men, we do not value ourselves. It is very understandable why this happened, as women were oppressed and belittled as women.
If it is so that we live in a masculine society (and I strongly believe ours is toxicly so) then our feminism will simply tend toward a masculinization of women, rather than figuring out what women's true strengths are, unless we are very careful and thoughtful.
For example, our western society has so thoroughly discounted the female, that she had almost no role in the religion. The god is male, he has a son, and even the Holy Spirit was considered male in the traditional church. Such a thing is an impossibility from a more mystical understanding of God and Universe. It is so unbalanced that it is a sick. But if you look at some societies that have actually been more oppressive to females, the Chinese and the Indian, they nonetheless have a very prominent place in the universal worldview for the divine feminine, for the goddess, for the equal play of masculine and feminine forces.
This western situation was very discouraging and humiliating for women and may account for the direction feminism has taken.
Kroeran what you said regarding the monetized and nonmonetized economy is quite interesting, as our society has actually continued to masculinize and everything has joined the monetized economy.
I'll tell you, I find male talents everywhere, and easy to spot. But the feminine - not so much. They say we multitask, but it's not really that easy and leads to errors.
Perhaps that is because men are the masters of the ten thousand things, and women are more like the void. A gender neutral society would be more Tao-like, respecting the feminine, and seeing it. Seeing the feminine, the earth and nature would be respected. Animals would be accorded their being.
The valley spirit never dies;
It is the Woman, primal
Her gateway is the root of heaven and earth.
The highest good is like water.
Water gives life to the ten thousand things and does not strive.
It flows in places men reject and so is like the Tao.
Opening and closing the gates of heaven,
Can you play the role of a woman?
Giving birth and nourishing,
Bearing yet not possessing,
Working yet not taking credit,
Leading yet not dominating,
This is the Primal
The ten thousand things carry yin and embrace yang.
There used to be a woman's world and a man
's world, and now there is only one world, and it is mostly the man
's world. Are we better for it?
Here is this question:
"Its a good thing for society when women are in the Boardrooms and legislatures. The question rather is what is best for your family, marriage and children, as relates to seeking positions of power?"
The thing is, as the world is overpopulated, women can no longer stay home to raise 8 children. I wish women could and would stay home while their children are babies and toddlers. What is happening as women are pursuing the life of a man
, is that they spend too many years single before marrying, and too many years working before bearing children, because they are afraid to stop and are not supported to stop. It makes sense in the male paradigm for a man
to pursue his career from the beginning and stick to it. That is linear. But women, damn it, women are not men and we are the mothers. And we are not linear. We are cyclic. I'd like to see motherhood accorded its rightful place as the single most important, divine task in human life and women's careers make room for time to have children in peace. There are plenty of years left.
Of course men are the servants of women. Woman = Life, and we all must serve life. Women serve life by bearing children, and men serve life by serving women. This is the truth of the matter.
Why in heck has nature given us males who are so concerned to master the outside environment? Why, to serve us! They are so good at it and I am very grateful.
This, in my opinion is the reason why the males of all species desire to have sex so strongly. It goes far beyond the fleeting pleasure. There is something so deep in their need to connect with the female, because if they don't they have failed at life, and failed to serve life. This is the real reason why sex is so affirming for the male. Any male of any species who did not feel that way disappears from life. It is the very meaning of being male.