My wife is talking about divorce. ...bent on breaking up, and getting her own place. ... more confusion dealing with how to deal. It seems losing her is the thing I fear most (other than fear), so the LCS is dangling that possibility, seeing how I will react. We are currently still living together, making awkward preparations for her moving out.
Sounds like a test, let's hope you pass it!
She is my strongest attachment in this reality frame, and has been extremely valuable. ... She works 2nd shift, and i want to blame that as a part of what is hurting our relationship, although ultimately, my reality is left up to me to figure out and stop blaming. ... This is my toughest challenge so far ... I knew she was the One, ever since the day I met her.
She seems to need some freedom.
... I asked my intuition what I should do; the response was a clear and simple "let her go." I have found my intuition to always be clear, simple, and sometimes almost obvious. It seems different from my own thoughts too somehow... that I cant quite put into words, but I feel as though it's not me producing the thoughts. So, what does your intuition say?
It's not just "female" intuition or "women's" intuition, from my own personal experience, some men seem to have it too.
... She was very religious, and a couple of times she broke up with him saying, that I love you too much, more, than I love Jesus, and this is not right. ...My son became an agnostic, and any mentioning of religion would make him run away and never come back. ... now, nine years later, she is not religious at all. He was patient with her beliefs, and she didn't force them on him, as it was in a high school. ... his love to her made him to find her again, be patient and grow together. But it could happen, when both of them had their separate experiences, met different people, and were able to see, that they love each other.
I would not lose a hope, but let your wife go now. She needs to explore on her own, so, be supportive. Try to be busy, find something to do, except your job. It helps to go on with your life, when you are busy. Extend your decision space, see what is interesting to you and go for it.
Bashar- follow your excitement.
... divorce is not the end of the world. Besides you should know by now that the things we fear the most are the things we need to face. .... Everyone deserves to be happy. . .. I know I will be okay." ... and we are still together after 18 yrs. But If she really wanted to go, I know, I have to let her go and wish her well. If you love someone, set them free.
Right on, brother Patrick!