What is the point of competition in PMR? It always feels like a very selfish thing to me and yet it seems to be what gives results.
There is no point. People compete because their biological processes encourage them to do so. So do animals.
It's all because of flawed biology.
1) I take a recreational class in the evenings where there are quite a bit of single people. One thing I noticed is that it feels very competitive and almost every guy in the class wants to talk to the prettiest 2 or 3 girls. It is very similar to a bar or night club dynamic now that I think about it. If a guy is successful and dates the girl, that means that all the other single guys have to suffer and stay single. Ultimately, she is going to marry 1 guy and all the other guys will "lose". You might say that the other guys will eventually marry someone else, but then it would likely be settling. So for one guy to succeed, another guy has to lose.
It really depends on how you define "losing". If by losing you mean the other guys don't get a mate ever again then I guess you can say they lost. But if they eventually found a woman then they didn't lose.
However, if you mean that the other guys didn't get to engage in parasitic behavior and "leech" a good time off one of the more attractive females then I guess you can say they "lost", but it's a hollow defeat because all they lost was one (or a few) orgasms and dopamine releases.
2) Obama acted very nice in his first debate. The public thought he "lost" the debate because he wasn't showing his fiery side. So in his 2nd and 3rd debates, he acts very tough and combative. The public thinks he won them. Again, much like the first example, he is basically rewarded for selfish behavior of trying to win at the expense of the other person failing.
Westernized nations encourage and worship "warrior"-types.
Or ingeru19... live with a group of pretty girls for three years while loving and being in a relationship with one of them and watch the interactions between them and the competing guys that come and go. It's like watching a wildlife behaviour documentary.
Obviously the guys and girls are unaware of their obvious behaviour because they are all wrapped up in this mating dance dynamic.
That's one of the things that has me dreading coming back to this PMR: Being wrapped up in this ridiculous mating dance as you called it, all over again.
Jealousy. Competition. Supplication. Superficiality.
It's all rather silly.