Firstly, I think that none of us can afford to forget that even within the realm of the ‘absolutes’ that the Theory of Everything which you have asserted - viz., ‘we’ ‘are’ ‘in’ ‘a’ ‘virtual’ ‘reality’ and ‘virtual’ ‘bodies’, ‘playing’ ‘this’ ‘game’ ‘to’ ‘grow’ ‘and’ ‘become’ ‘love’ ‘and’ ‘improve’ ‘the’ ‘quality’ ‘of’ ‘our’ ‘consciousness’ - the ‘uncertainty principle’ holds true, as the veracity of each and every one of those words is challengeable.
This puts us all on the horns of the dilemma, even though we may also hold to the Theory of Everything that ‘a lot of generally-accepted knowledge is simply lies, delusion, beliefs, etc.’ and the one that holds that ‘son, your teacher at school does not know her ass from her elbow’.
And, if you will forgive me for ‘putting more words in your mouth’ than you intended should be inferred, ‘in the big scheme of things, we are totally equal!’ Immediately you give an example that it too is a false Theory of Everything. Then, and please again forgive me, you chuck all your good intentions out with the bath-water, by your -
‘He’s 6, I’m 46, but who cares …
… Should I stop being a “father” and just let him do what he wants because he’s here to learn his lessons himself, without his parents’ interference or what? …
… I want to do the right thing. Can anyone enlighten me as to what the right thing is in the context of spiritual awareness?’
Well, my view, for whatever it is worth, is that you are already doing the right thing. You are being open-mindedly skeptical of whether you are adequately educated, trained, and experienced, for such an important role as being a father of a son. And, my view, again for whatever it is worth, is that you are adequately educated, trained, and experienced for such a role, as demonstrated by your open-minded skepticism about whether you are. My nightly prayer each day throughout my life has been, simply, that I may be better at fulfilling my callings tomorrow than I was today. I don’t think I ever articulated that prayer within earshot of my daughter, but, guess what, somehow it rubbed off on her, because that is how she lives her life, even to this very day. All the way through school, all the way through college, all the way through university, and now, all the way through her professional and personal callings of, Hospital Nursing Care and Management, looking after her husband, and bringing up their two kids. My life’s motto, if I can call it that, is, ‘onward and upward’, which is only another way of saying my nightly prayer.
I concur completely with Targobaath’s posting of Mon Feb 25, 2013 9:30 pm., but will add a little of my own life-long-learning about this subject, in my concluding paragraph.
Equally, I concur with the posting of specialis sapienta, subject to the same proviso as with Targobaath’s.
As for kroeran’s posting, all I can advise is never get in a car if he is its driver if you value your life. Hehehehe.
I feel the pure love energy in Lena’s posting and am indulging in a little flood of tears as I write this comment. Thank you Lena. I needed that little weep for the sake of my memories of my parents, and their parents, and the sole one of their parents that ever sat me on his knee; and how much I learned from them, mainly, just be the best you can possibly be, today, and the best you can possibly be tomorrow, and the tomorrow after that, and all will be well in the end.
Sainbury has picked up on the very point I want to make at the end. Well done chook. You are a mind reader.
Regarding bette’s post, her courage at being so open is admirable, and also filled with positive constructiveness and demonstrates how resilient we can be even in the face of adversity. My love goes out to you bette. Onward and upward, eh? Same as me!
I slapped my daughter in the face once. I also slapped my wife in the face once. Both times it was because they were becoming hysterical over some trivial thing the other had done. I was raised in a culture where a face slap was considered not only proper in circumstances such as that, but necessary to prevent insane spiral into something worse, such as epileptic fit. Indeed, I’m sure I read it in my mother’s Nursing Care and Management handbook. It did not make me happy that I had to take such action, but neither did it make me happy that things had gotten so bad between them that the relationship had degenerated into them screaming in each others' faces day in day out. Tom is right about ego. Their relationship went downhill because their egos clashed.
My point. I think, is that it isn’t only your relationship with your son that you may have to manage, but also the one between your son and his mother, and between yourself and his mother.
But, hey, if life was easy, everybody would get it right wouldn’t they, and then where would the television and newspaper companies be, with nothing untoward to talk about or write about?
Right, its final paragraph time, and the bit of wisdom that I’d like to chuck in the cooking pot for you, namely the dreaded ‘uncertainty principle’. Way back in my early adulthood I attended a session of a course in management studies called ‘Living with uncertainty’. I do not remember anything that was said in it, only the title, which I adopted as one of many inspirational mottoes. It simply means you have to accept you have to live with uncertainty. Byron Katie, the inspirational speaker, has written a lovely little book, readily available on Amazon, called 'Loving What Is'. And that title too says it for me. Indeed, the one could even be acceptable as a sub-title for the other – “Living With Uncertainty: Loving What Is” and I am sure I could go through the entire reading list of my favourite website, "The Philosophers Notes" on "En*Theos", and find another dozen or so book titles that would sit equally well with the motto “Living with Uncertainly” as that one. Straight off the top of my head I can think of ‘Happier’ by Tal Ben Shahar; ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ by Victor Frankl; ‘Learned Optimism’ by Martin Seligman: ‘Motivation and Personality’ by Abraham Maslow; ‘The Courage To Create’ by Rollo May; ‘Positive Addiction’ by William Glasser; ‘The Gifted Adult’ by Mary Elaine Jacobsen; the list just goes on and on and on. I think I’ve just invented a new computer game. I must tell Brian Johnson, the Chief Philosopher. He’ll know how to make some money out of it. You could even add Tom’s trilogy. ‘My Big TOE’ to the list, and Bob Monroe’s ‘Journeys’ trilogy, ‘Journeys Out Of The Body’; ‘Far Journeys’; and ‘Ultimate Journey’. Because, after all is said, that’s what we are really talking about – the relationships between our journey through life, and our respective children’s journeys through life, and our lives after death.